I was working on this piece earlier on in the week and came to finish it in time for tomorrow’s full moon. This is an especially powerful time to use the energy of the full moon in order to let go of anything that no longer serves us. It could be a habit, a behaviour, a situation or a relationship. In allowing ourself to release this pattern, we make room for renewal and joy to take its place. Find a quiet place and ask yourself the question, ” What do I need to let go of that is not working for me?” The answer we receive when our mind is silent can sometimes surprise us. As we let go of the old ways, may we all find regeneration and love in the new energy that enters our life.
Pain is sacred. It brings us face to face with ourselves in a fierce embrace. Brought to the moment, we are acutely present and vulnerable. Pain calls to our attention in an immediate and undeniable way that something is off.
Most of us, apart from an enlightened few, spend our lives in a deliberately orchestrated dance to avoid pain at all costs. Why, any sane person may ask, would anyone want to come near it in the first place? Why indeed. Yet despite our best efforts and the cleverest of manoeuvres, we can never succeed entirely in circumventing it.
This brings us to the question that if pain is unescapable, is there an alternative way of dealing with it? Are we missing something? Could our beliefs around pain be misconstrued?
A few years ago, I discovered that almost all of my choices have been made out of fear; fear of loss, fear of lack, fear of not being prepared. Imagine my surprise when I realised that the very thing I was trying to avoid was the very thing that was the driving force in my life.
The belief system around pain is that it’s not comfortable, it shakes things up, situations change, relationships end. It makes us feel as if we are not in control and the life we are living is not stable. Sound a little obvious? Please take a few moments to reflect upon how you feel when things are out of your control and how a sudden unexpected change in your life affects you. You will quickly see how removed we are from the reality of what is. Being in control is an illusion. Change is a constant.
When fear comes up for us, so does the opportunity for growth, the opportunity for an expansion of our awareness, a possible shift in our perspective. When pain looms up on our horizon, so does the chance to feel deeper and love more. If these are the possible outcomes, isn’t it time we saw pain for what it promises rather than how it feels?
What if in its sudden tenacious grip, we choose instead to surrender and follow it through the shadows only to hear its gentle whisper, “Open your eyes.”
Best
Afshan x
This has been my favorite one. It’s poignant and effective. It’s also spoke to me. Which is perhaps why I gravitated to it. Thank you for this. H.
the other face of pain is absolute serenity . I have been through the fire does it really matter since the clock does not stop ticking and life goes on . Pain never goes away – there are different categories of pain but to move forward you have to let them go. Instance where love resided and the sudden serpent of betrayal rears its head -there could be nothing worse for that period of time but the inner light moved me on to better things . Its like fear of death but the reality is there is no way out you learn from it . Sometimes you close your eyes and pray very hard it goes away ironically it does not. You have deal with it as I have dealt .Pain is caused by people the best is to move on and look for a sun soaked pasture where there is serenity since there is no absolute happiness.
I have learned big things dont matter its the small details which matter at the end of the day. like you said whatever happens you have to open your eyes and take stock and then move on .
The fear of change makes us hold on to some relationships that bring us negativity and pain.. time to let go and clear our path for new exiting and joyful experiences
Loved it Afshan .. felt so good , calm and in control for any pressure around .. you have written so beautifully … simple and true .. love you and proud of you ..đź’ž
Beautifully written ❤ Most of us do, indeed, make decisions revolved around and out of fear – whether it’s the fear of change or loss, or the fear of not knowing what the outcome may be or what the future may hold.