Anyone else feeling a lot? As a life coach there are many times I tell my clients that it’s okay to experience a multitude of feelings, often conflicting, at the same time. Finding oneself in this state can be not only confusing but also overwhelming.
The summer holidays have started and since we have yet to embark on our travels, I find myself out of my regular routine, asking myself continually, ‘Is it okay to just eat, watch reruns and sleep?’ It’s as if I’m trying to justify rest, almost as if it’s an excuse; like I should be doing something worthwhile. When did relaxation become worthless? Also interestingly my body seems to be as confused with the current lack of panic or urgency as my mind. I find myself wandering aimlessly from room to room as if expecting to come across a pressing obligation that needs to be attended to immediately.
As I write this, it seems to me that I’m experiencing the aftershocks of a packed life coming to a halt. Clearly this is a period of recalibration. The incessant loop of thoughts: I am so happy I can rest, I am so bored, I am so tired, how come I’m sleeping all the time, I am so glad I have nothing lined up today, I can’t believe I’ve done nothing constructive today, I can’t wait to get out and travel, I don’t want to leave my bed…. this constant circus has been the backdrop of my last few days. Contracting the ‘flu has been another source of irritation. I mean two weeks? Who gets sick for that long? Is that even normal? More fun rhetoric. #livingmybestlife.
Thankfully, amongst so much insanity, there is a part of me that gets the humour in this. I love that I am actually annoyed at the opportunity of relaxing. I may even have forgotten what it feels like to slow down. This new alien state may be throwing me off.
The metaphor of the snow globe always comes up in my coaching when I sense overwhelm in a client. When we encounter change we are very much like a snow globe that has been shaken. The snow flakes represent the many feelings that we are capable of holding but more importantly we need to see that we are the container and that our true nature is stillness. In this powerful state of surrender, all within us figures itself out.
Rest is the silence where awareness arises. It blesses us with the opportunity to see and reevaluate our lives and realise that allowing and tranquility help us reach our goals much more effectively than endless activity and chaos.
Rest is a safe place. Rest is coming home, to a state of being, where we are complete.